The customary code of polite behavior has changed when it comes to millennial marriages. That’s a good thing! Here are a few updates on how millennials are swerving away from the rules:
Let’s start with my favorite: fashion!
Gone are the days when getting dressed up means squeezing and contorting your feet into an uncomfortable stiletto to look the part of a bride. Now more than ever people are finding their comfort zone when they're in the zone. A new beautiful variety of sparkly sandals or jeweled ballet flats fit the bill perfectly.
Dress or no dress. Anything goes. My favorite bride this year wore a perfectly tailored suit! Not only was her bridal "dress" a suit, but it was also a delicately constructed pair of shorts and jacket that conveyed elegance with a capital “E” and oodles of style!
Rental suits or tuxes for men? Passé! Grooms are getting into the action by not settling for any ole leased outfit. Millennial men are all about knowing themselves and then bringing it on “game day”. Custom fitted suits and tailored tuxes are their jam and it is a feast for the eyes!
Now, my second favorite: food!
"Let them eat cake!” … or not. Millennial couples are asking themselves, “Do I even like cake?” If so, there are no rules about how it should look or be displayed. I’m loving the naked cake that shows off the pastry itself and creates gorgeous texture. If cake is not their thing, they serve THEIR favorite sweet treat. I’ve had more donut bars than full bars as of late. Sharing what you really crave not only conveys your true personality but it also makes your wedding day stand out.
The number one anxiety for planning a wedding is the myriad of decisions that need to be made. Remedy: cut out all the decisions and serve everyone the same meal. Offering a dual plate (two smaller portions of protein) or an elegantly presented buffet takes the guessing game out of pleasing everyone and totally eliminates the coordination of who wants what.
Last, paper: Yes, one of my favorite things about a wedding is paper (the invitation)!
Does an electronic invitation count? YEP! Millennials are saving the planet AND save their finances. Responding to an RSVP by email is not only convenient, but it’s also smart.
Standard etiquette states that you should never include information about your gift registry or honeymoon fund on the actual invite. Millennials aren’t playing coy. Making things easier for guests is what matters. They include the whole enchilada!
Tidal Wave (off): Once the paper or evite is ordered, it’s time to send them off. The question is, will the Mr. & Mrs. need the title? Most millennials are waving off the desire to designate titles and just cut to the chase. Bob Brown and Nancy Davis, you’re our guests. Please come and celebrate with us!